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If there is something sacred & most complicated in the lives of women, it’s other women & our friendships with them. And it’s all worth it. That’s why I picked up this book. The subject of female friendships is not only important to me, it’s also a very interesting topic.
You can tell by how the book is written that it’s also a subject close to the heart. The book is written by Lily Pebbles who is a beauty YouTuber & blogger that also puts out lifestyle content. I think it’s interesting that she actually chose a topic that is not in the same realm as what she normally puts out. However, by reading the book you get why she picked the topic.
Last book review I did I rounded up the best tips but this time I want to take the advantage to talk about my friendships, why it’s important to me & why I think it’s important to always look for new ones.
// FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS TYPES
One of the fun things about the book is that she goes into the different types of friends you can have. Not only can you identify your friends but also what type of friend you are to whom. And I think I’m a different friend to all my friends — for one I’m the childhood friend, for someone else the older sister friend or I fill the roll of the work wife. I’m probably the sensitive friend to some as well and I also have women I only communicate with online.
Whenever I read one of the friend types I recognized who was who. And that’s the fun thing about the book: it’s a fun read but it does make you think about your life and friends. It’s the perfect book to read if you want something lighthearted & almost self help. It kind of floats between a good fictional book & inspiring, biographical book.
// MY OWN FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS
I love the subject of female friendships — for me they’re more important than any romantic relationship can be. I’ve always prioritized my friends but as we all get older & follow different directions and goals, keeping up also gets harder. One friend went long-distance — but luckily came back — another chose to live in a different city and I went from seeing my work friends at least twice a week to once every three months because I left the company.
And sometimes friendships fizzle out. Sometimes because you stopped spending time together — the case with most of the friends I’ve made in college and during internships — and sometimes because you realize you’re not on the same page anymore.
I loved how in the book she mentioned that losing a friendship can feel like a break-up. If you think about it — and went through it — it is basically a break-up but without actually talking about it. There is no real exit conversation. I think this part of the book for me personally validated that what I was going through wasn’t as weird as it sometimes felt it did.
// YOUR GIRL GANG
But with chapters ending, another one begins. The past two years I’ve been really focusing on being open to new things & new people. I actually joined an all female network meet-up & a group of fellow female entrepreneurs to talk about what’s important to me in this stage of my life. I think there is always room to expand your girl gang. Being open to making new friends or just trying to connect to women. You never know who you end up meeting.